"Queen of the Angels"

Her eyes are like the twinkling of the stars on a crystal clear night,
she thinks that no one sees.
Her hair is like gold and catches the eye as she goes by,
she thinks that no one notices.
Her smile turns the sadest moments to joyfull laughter,
she doesn't understand why.
Her beauty lights up the faces of those she meets,
she thinks surely this can not be.
She thinks these things are all imagined,
but I know that they are real.
She is my angel, she is my love, she is my queen.
All the rest can continue to dream.
Throughout the years many have tried,
but I am the only guy who can make the Queen of the Angels sigh !

"Breaking Away"

         “They say that breaking up is hard to do”, a line from a song whose author had it wrong! Breaking up is easy, it’s the breaking away that’s hard to do!


           There are many things that can cause a break up between two people, some small, some earth shattering, Most of us have been through it at some point in our lives, whether it’s breaking up with a girl/boy friend that you’ve been with for a while or a husband/wife who have been together for years. It’s all the same when it comes to the break up. It’s as simple as telling them you don’t want to be with them anymore or by something you do to cause them not to want to be with you any longer. That’s the easy part.

          Don’t get me wrong, it can be very traumatic when you are in the midst of a breakup, but once the decision is final that’s when the real hell begins. Usually it’s not a mutual decision, one side wants to try to repair the relationship or out of desperation they cling to the hope that the other person will reconsider their decision and change their mind. Oftimes they will hold on just as a way of inflicting some sort of revenge on you for what you did. It’s all crazy stuff.

         The point of the matter is that there is a certain amount of pain and suffering that one should expect in these situations and rightfully so. That’s all part of the process, but at some point the hurting has to stop and the healing has to begin for both sides. When the anger turns to hurt and the hurt turns to torture, enough is enough! There’s a reason they’re in the boat they’re in and they should have been smart enough to spot the leaks before it became a sinking ship!

         For those on the other side of the fence, the lament becomes “ I just wish they would leave me alone” . To you I say, when you think it can’t get any worse it surely will and when you think you can’t take it any more you will find the strength to carry on the fight. When you feel that all is lost, there will be a glimmer of hope that will guide you on your way to a brighter day and your own personal “Breakaway”

"The Party"

             This weekend marked a very special occasion for us as we attended my grandson Jackson's second birthday party. This was a special occasion since he is so very dear to me, but what made it really special was the fact that it marked the first official gathering on my side of the family that Joyce and I attended as a real part of the family! It was incredibly satisfying for us to be a part of something that had always been so special to both of us, our families!

              I know that it seems strange to most of you that we make such a big deal out of something so simple, but when you go through the life changes that we both have been through over the past two years, even the simpliest family functions take on new meaning. I have spoken many times in my past postings on this blog of the strain that my divorce put on my family and I won't rehash them here, but it has been a long hard road back and we are so pleased that we finally have completed the circle that has returned us to some form of normalcy with our families. We now are able to feel good about where we are and are excited about building on this foundation. We plan to see my oldest daughter soon to visit with her little ones and it is our wish that we can begin to broaden our relationship with them.

               Joyce and I have paid a heavy price to be able to share our love for each other and to have a chance to finally be really happy. Now we are able to enjoy some of the dividends that our investment in each other has brought to us. 

Parenthood....the "look at me I'm all grown up" years

            Parenthood, It's a wonderful thing, in fact it most likely will be your life's greatest achievement. As I look back, becoming a parent was one of the greatest and maybe the scariest moments of my life. Bringing a new life into the world and nurturing it to adulthood is a monumental task for all involved. If you decide you want to be a parent you better pack a lunch because you're going to be there for a while and it will take every bit of energy, patience and not to mention money that you can muster!
         At some point though sooner or later your kids will grow up and leave home to make their way in the world on their own. First there will be school or jobs and then husbands or wives and then houses and kids. If all this sounds familiar it could be because it is, it's the very same thing that you did when you were in their place! The best you can hope for is that they don't make the same mistakes you did and that they have a easier time of it than you.
        Even though that is your wish, life doesn't always go according to plan and things go awry. These are the times that require you to dust off your boots and jump back in the saddle to ride in defense of you child once again.! All kidding aside, we as parents should be smart enough to know that sooner if not later our kids are going to go through some rough times and probably do some things we don't like or agree with, but these are the times that they need us the most. Just as they did when they were little, by nature they will turn to you for advice, help, or support and sometimes just a shoulder to cry on. It is up to us to provide what ever it is that we can to get them through and back on track. The one thing we can't do is turn them away or turn our backs on them when the going gets tough.
        I myself am proud to say that I have two of the most wonderful children that a parent could ask for and I have always done my best to love and support them to the best of my ability, and they have always been there for me in my times of need. It is a wonderful feeling to have that kind of bond with a child. Who knows, they may be the ones changing your diapers one of these days !