"Breaking Away"

         “They say that breaking up is hard to do”, a line from a song whose author had it wrong! Breaking up is easy, it’s the breaking away that’s hard to do!


           There are many things that can cause a break up between two people, some small, some earth shattering, Most of us have been through it at some point in our lives, whether it’s breaking up with a girl/boy friend that you’ve been with for a while or a husband/wife who have been together for years. It’s all the same when it comes to the break up. It’s as simple as telling them you don’t want to be with them anymore or by something you do to cause them not to want to be with you any longer. That’s the easy part.

          Don’t get me wrong, it can be very traumatic when you are in the midst of a breakup, but once the decision is final that’s when the real hell begins. Usually it’s not a mutual decision, one side wants to try to repair the relationship or out of desperation they cling to the hope that the other person will reconsider their decision and change their mind. Oftimes they will hold on just as a way of inflicting some sort of revenge on you for what you did. It’s all crazy stuff.

         The point of the matter is that there is a certain amount of pain and suffering that one should expect in these situations and rightfully so. That’s all part of the process, but at some point the hurting has to stop and the healing has to begin for both sides. When the anger turns to hurt and the hurt turns to torture, enough is enough! There’s a reason they’re in the boat they’re in and they should have been smart enough to spot the leaks before it became a sinking ship!

         For those on the other side of the fence, the lament becomes “ I just wish they would leave me alone” . To you I say, when you think it can’t get any worse it surely will and when you think you can’t take it any more you will find the strength to carry on the fight. When you feel that all is lost, there will be a glimmer of hope that will guide you on your way to a brighter day and your own personal “Breakaway”